designed to model a system of purposeful living. At least once a month, he spends time setting
meaningful goals around one of seventeen core priorities.
If you missed it, consider reading the foundation post – Purposeful Living #1.
Goal Setting & Reflection Date
Sunday, March 4
Invest in the emotional health of my children by revising our chart, chore, and allowance system. Specifically this means:
- Revising our list of morning, afternoon, and evening routines/chores.
- Listing routines/chores in the order they should be completed.
- Developing an easier system of connecting routines/chores to an allowance. The system must be easy to record and monitor.
- Developing effective and easy to implement consequences for misbehavior.
This week I spent time reflecting and setting goals to be a better parent. To do a better job of meeting the emotional needs of my wonderful children.
Amy & I have three amazing girls ages 12, 11, and 8 and they are number five on my list of correct priorities. They are beautiful, and precious, and we are extremely proud them. They bring joy to our lives and make us smile on a daily basis.
But even the best of kids can struggle if not given proper boundaries.
Two and a half years ago we developed a morning, afternoon, and evening chart system which included a list of chores for our girls to complete during each part of the day. We also connected an allowance to the successful completion of these chores.
While the charts have been modestly successful and have made life a bit easier over the past couple of years, the charts also have some serious flaws. Enforcing them has become harder and harder and over the months Amy & I have stopped expecting them to get done almost completely. Our girls still do some of the routines on their own, but there are many they will only do if nagged and many more that they don’t do at all. As Amy likes to say, “We’ve got monkeys on our backs that don’t belong there.” I agree, we are spending too much time telling (nagging) our girls to get their responsibilities (monkeys) done.
This goal of revising our chart, chore, and allowance system is so important to me that I am moving it immediately to my weekly to-do list. Over the next few weeks I will dedicate significant time to this project. It is an area where I have missed the mark as parent and it is time to tighten things up.
Not only will Amy & I benefit, but more important our girls will benefit. They will benefit by learning the value of hard work and discipline.
I plan to share the results of this work very soon!
Purposeful Living #1
Charts, Chores, & Allowances–Part 2